We basically did a rapid tandem fade . We talk about issues on this forum and things that come up everyday, I don't know what I would do without him.
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Question about your spouse or ex
by bluecanary ini've noticed we have a few male posters here with wives who are still in the jws.
and i can think of one female poster (cognac) with a husband in the jws (although things are looking up for her).
of course we have a few spouses that came out together.. is it me, or does it seem like the women here are more likely to have divorced their jw husband--even before leaving--whereas the men are more likely to stay with their wives?
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My JW SIL is crazy
by Beachwalker inhi, a little background.
i've been out for 20 years or so.
my partner and i got together about 3 years ago.
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Many JW women are just conditioned to be somatic hypochondriacs. There is really nothing else they can do for positive attention, no career, no education and has little use in the congregation (especially if unmarried). Probably has an underlying depression. The constant negativity comes out in people some how, some way.
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How Much WT Literature is Still in Your Life?
by OnTheWayOut inespecially those that no longer go to any meetings, but even those that still go- how much wt literature do you read or scan over?.
blondie does her weekly study article comments.
flipper started commenting on articles in upcoming issues.
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I thought I had it all, but I was in a cleaning frenzy the other day and pulled out the fridge to scrub back there. There it was! A territory, and into the trash it went, now I think every shred is gone. Family gave up trying to give it to me. They hint as to how great a release was, but they don't give them to me anymore.
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My sister died in a head on collision last night
by Bumble Bee ini still can't believe it.
she was here for the bbq, we had an awesome time, laughing, her telling stories from our childhoods.
i gave her a hug and told her i loved her before she left.
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So, so sorry. Reminds us all to say "I love you".
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Im new....posting hesitantly :)
by wantstoleave inhi everyone...i have a confession to make, i actually joined 5mths ago, but never came back to the site.
ive had doubt for a few years now.. my parents came into the truth when i was a toddler.
no other family members are witnesses.
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Hi and welcome. You have some decisions to make but there is no need to rush, sounds like you are kind of fading now. If you do go to a meeting "listen", check it out see if it's right. I really agree with Lisa, do you want your kids to endure this same angst? Enjoy your kids, maybe meet some new people through them, like soccer or school stuff. The rule about having proof of being "scriptural free" is perhaps one of the first ridiculous things you should question. As for you parents, sure you love them, but you can't live your life for them (I tried it), it doesn't work. Good luck. NMKA
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the big black hole of belief
by highdose ini no longer belive anything that i was ever taught as a jw.
i therefore find myself without any beliefs at all.
which having talked to all the freinds i've made since seems to not be unusual.
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I know exactly where you are. There is a little church in our community that neighbors have been encouraging me to join but I see so many similarities between that and JW's on a social basis that it makes me sick. I don't mind not having all the answers all bundled up in a 192 page book anymore. Enjoy it.
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The Early Fade Sheparding Calls.....
by lepermessiah ini went through some earlier topics, but wanted a little more input.. i wanted to get some ideas on how some of you handled the sheparding visit requests as you faded.. we had one about a month ago, and fortunately the elders did most of the talking.
everytime i was about to comment on something, the other one would chime in so i didnt have to go off on any tangents.
i was told last night by my wife that they would like to come by again.
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This is the problem with the fade. My advice is rip it off like a band aid. Some meeting has to be your last meeting anyway. Just don't go anymore and don't answer the phone or the door, they will give up. I would definitely not meet with them again. If you go back it will start all over again. Good luck!
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That is so sad, but a good reminder for all of us moms and dads. I am going to go hug my babies.
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Ex JW boy meets ex JW girl....good thing or bad thing?
by digderidoo inex jw boy meets ex jw girl....good thing or bad thing?.
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I think it would really help in knowing your background going in. I am so glad my husband gets it. Sometimes I get tired of explaining to my friends that no, I never celebrated a holiday, no, I didn't do that in college, yes, my family really doesn't talk to me anymore because we don't go to church anymore. My husband just gets it. I don't know what to say about them wanting to go back, that would be really bad.
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Cantleave went to the meeting last night
by cantleave ini have attended just a handful of meetings over the 2 months.
i went yesterday, because i had an assignment and i really wanted to see my mate talk about masturbation from the platform, knowing he would be very uncomfortable about it!!!!.
anyway after the meeting i was approached by the cobe.
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Not knowing what a COBE is. Priceless!